Relationship Balance

So many marriages and partnerships fail today because we run astray of their intent. Marriages and partnerships are negotiated like business deals. Love and commitment only survive as long as the ‘deal’ supports the contract. When situations arise that are not part of the deal, people bail out, unwilling to sit down and work through life’s challenges. I am reading a 6 Day Devotional Plan in entitled, What Hinders Answers to Your Prayer by Dr. Michael Youssef,

I married in the early 1970’s when marriage was neither binding or eternal. ‘Shacking’ or cohabiting, going to the justice of the peace, or marrying in a church were one and the same. Relationships were negotiated, the commitment was agreed upon, and partner swapping and multiple partners were embraced as a part of the times. Communal living was part of the acceptable experimental norm. Walking away was written in as an accepted norm.

Our society, the human community, has suffered dramatically from this breakdown. Today, more than 40% of marriages (in the US) end in divorce. In 2012, the average marriage lasted 8 years.

I feel we should all read this devotional study, if for no other reason than referring to it as a reminder of who we are in Christ and the expectations for our lives.

The Delicate Balance
By Michael Youssef, Ph.D.

In the Garden of Eden, God gave the first man an incredible gift: a wife. She was the one who fit him perfectly – custom-designed by God to be his ultimate partner in life. But marriage is not automatic. It must be maintained. Husbands and wives must live out their callings as God intends. Otherwise, things get off-balance, and it’s not only the marriage relationship that suffers.

It’s a delicate balance in a Christian marriage, like a chemical formula. Husbands are to love their wives sacrificially, and wives to submit to their loving sacrifice willingly. If these two ingredients are not balanced, the marriage relationship gets out of whack. And sometimes a mistake in the formula can burn the whole chemistry set. Peter counsels husbands to guard this delicate balance “so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Peter 3:7).

It’s not only the marriage relationship that suffers when we abandon God’s design. The husband’s relationship with God suffers, and so does his wife’s.

Back in the Garden, we see this very scenario play out. When Satan spins his lies and tempts Eve to taste the forbidden fruit, where is Adam? The Bible tells us he is right beside his wife (Genesis 3:6)!

Adam knew God’s command and the consequences of their failure. To love his wife like Christ, Adam needed to confront the serpent and his lies and remind Eve of God’s goodness. But Adam failed her. What was the result? They lost the close relationship with God that they had enjoyed in the Garden.

Satan is powerless if we will keep our eyes on Jesus. But if we allow the enemy to gain a foothold in any part of our lives, including marriage, our relationship with God will suffer.

Husbands, are you loving your wives as Christ loved the church? Wives, are you submitting to your husbands, as you do to the Lord? If your relationship is not being lived out according to God’s design, ask for His forgiveness and take the necessary steps to bring your relationship into alignment with His will. As soon as repentance, confession, and restoration of that marriage formula takes place, joy is restored. And you can be confident that your relationship is not a hindrance, but a gateway to communion with your heavenly Father.

Prayer: Father, show me the ways in which I need to nurture my marriage and restore and maintain the beautiful, delicate balance that You have designed. I pray in the name of Jesus. Amen.

“To this, you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps” (1 Peter 2:21).


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Time To Come Into The Light

Many of us are afraid to come into the light. We hide in the shadows hoping that our sins aren’t discovered. Our sins are tearing us apart. The sins others have laid upon us are tearing us up, but fear will not allow us to expose them. Our actions are destroying us. We need help. Self-recovery is not working, yet fear and doubt hold us back from seeking help. Many become alienated, lose friends and family, and feel lost in the darkness but cannot navigate through to the light.

What does John 3:20-21 mean to you? Is there anything you need to shed – anger, rage, disappointment, evil acts, loss? What do you fear will be exposed if you seek help, spiritual and/or psychological?

It’s time to stop existing in the dark and begin living in the light. It’s time to take a deep breath, exhale, practice the truth, repent, seek God’s help, go to counseling* and move into the light.

* God created careers and professions. He created doctors, psychiatrists,  psychologists, and counselors to help us work through our darkness. Make today the best day of your life. Take the first step on your knees and the next contacting a professional.

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God’s Compassion Brings Freedom

God’s Promise – I will give you life

God has compassion for us. We generally have compassion for others, yet are unable to forgive ourselves for our trespasses. If you’ve been forgiven by God, then it’s time to move forward and follow the path God designed for each of us.

You will make known the path of life; in Your presence is fullness of joy; in Your right hand there are pleasures forever.
Psalm 16:11

I challenge you to forgive yourself and let go. Too many of us are constricted by our past transgressions, are stuck in the Muck and the Mire* of life and not compassionate towards ourselves.

God gave us life.

The Spirit of God has made me, and the breath of the Almighty gives me life.
Job 33:4

For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has set you free from the law of sin and of death.
Romans 8:2

We have been purified, set free, but remain corralled by our carnal life, fearing what is outside the fence. We suffer from self-imposed imprisonment.

We fear the future because of our past, but

 God did not give us a Spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
2 Timothy 1:7

God gave us life and wants our life to be full. God gives us hope for our future. God washed away your sins. Take the first step of freedom from your sins and into life today.

The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.
John 10:10


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* Related Post – Living Through the Muck and Mire of Life, February 18, 2018

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